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A friend who is also struggling with IF recently posted the following:

I’ve had to hear how ‘clever’ my SIL is because she managed to fall pregnant, and give birth! CLEVER

CLEVER? Seriously??!!

Ask any teenage mother putting up a LO for adoption whether she conceived due to being so incredibly clever.

Round up all the women in the world with between 10 and 30 kiddies. Count how many of them are rocket scientists.

Oh man, I’m so sorry you had to listen to such an idiotic comment while you’re in such a difficult place, dear friend. 😦


Someone told me today that she’s pregnant and that it only took 3 months of ttc – “that happened rather quickly, wouldn’t you say”, was her words.

Considering that I’m sure she knows by now that I’m IF and also considering that her sister apparently had an m/c that destroyed her (the sister’s) marriage, I really expected her to be a bit more sensitive on this topic.

I obviously smiled, congratulated her and said her how cool it was.

However, I couldn’t help thinking: “Well, I can still become pregnant, but you won’t become any smarter or prettier..”

Why is it that people are somehow allowed to brag about how quickly they’ve been able to conceive (or in some cases spawned offspring), yet it’s frowned upon to brag about most of one’s other innate or acquired abilities?

Shame, she is actually rather sweet and I can’t help feeling happy for her. Truth is that she is probably not the smartest cookie around. I guess she’s really just a bit clueless and didn’t mean to ‘rub my nose in it’.

Ai, if only I can get that BFP next time I test it would be so much easier to cope with yet another upcoming baby shower.. At work, we’ve already had 2 cases of paternity leave in a team of 15 in the past 2 months. And another just a few months before that. Ugh, it’s getting on my nerves!

I found the following article about menstrual cycle characteristics pretty interesting: Menstrual Cycle Length could be a Marker for Ovarian Reserve in Patients Undergoing IVF

It says that women with longer cycles may have better IVF results. Also, having 5 or more days of bleeding before a cycle is best in terms of pregnancy outcome.

However, other studies on the same subject have found no relationship between menstrual cycle characteristics and IVF outcome – so please don’t be discouraged if your cycles are shorter and/or you have less bleed days!

But if this is you, then feel free to be encouraged!

I’ve noticed that a few of us have posted on longer cycles recently – OK, it usually lead to disappointment when AF finally started, but maybe we’ll have better luck with the next cycle!

Sorry if TMI, but here’s my details: my cycles are a bit longer than normal, usually 29-32 days, but I often bleed for only 3 days. Strangely, I suspect my luteal phase is longer than normal having tested with ovulation kits – up to as much as 18 days long. That seems very unusual, but not necessarily bad, I hope.

I usually had a day or two of brown spotting before AF, but since the removal of endo + endometrioma, it’s been red from the start. That must be a good sign, I’m sure.

Jip, this is possibly me over-analyzing everything, eager to find reasons why the next month will be The One!


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